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Views on homosexuality have changed drastically throughout history. It may actually surprise many to know that in some cultures, homosexuality is seen as a blessed state.Even in history, ancient Greeks considered male homosexuality to be perfectly the norm. Several Native American cultures even believe in multiple genders rather than just two. Western and modern views on homosexuality in general have expanded and have evolved more towards acceptance, away from the discrimination and shame of the past. Today, many educated people recognize that homosexuality is not a disgracefully state one chooses, rather it is simply a biological and genetic factor not unlike eye color or height. One interesting point to further enforce the scientific findings concerning homosexuality is the fact that homosexuality occurs at the same rate or frequency throughout every human culture and ethnicity.
Regardless of how society continues to move toward acceptance, homosexuals still face discrimination and are often labeled with ridiculous stereotypes. Because of this truth, many parents naturally become concerned if they feel one of their children may be exhibiting homosexual tendencies or behaviors. In order to truly know whether or not this is the case, parents must first be aware of how sexuality and sexual identity evolves during childhood. Typically, by age one or two, children will display a preference towards one gender or another. They will experiment and role-play with the opposite gender. As kids get older, pre-adolescence, peer groups and adult expectations can dictate whether a child expresses themselves as heterosexual or homosexual. As a child reaches puberty, they will more clearly feel and exhibit whether they are homosexual or heterosexual; this is because they are simply growing to understand their sexuality.
Today, there are many school clubs and support groups for young adults who are homosexual so they can be themselves comfortably and securely just as heterosexual young adults. These support groups reinforce that homosexuality is not something to be stigmatized, criminalized, or discriminated against. These groups can also help young adults feel more comfortable with their parents and family in general.
Once the child or young adult feels completely secure and comfortable with living according to the sexual preference they are born with, it may be the others in their lives who have the toughest time accepting or embracing homosexuality. For a child to come to his or her parents and proclaim they are homosexual involves a lot of trust. It is never easy when a child does not know what the response from their family will be. Luckily there are support groups and resources for parents to turn to that simply did not exist not too long ago. One of the most successful and most often turned to resource for families and friends is PFLAG (Parents, Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays). This group currently has over 400 chapters. The group’s mission is to help those who love a homosexual deal with how they feel about it. For parents, this group has been a lifesaver when they have felt confused or unsure of how to deal with a child who has come out.
Aside from this phenomenal group, there are many books and online support for families trying to accept or understand the fact that their child is gay. One great book that clearly and correctly answers over 300 questions for parents is “Is It a Choice” by Eric Marcus. “Loving Someone Gay” by Don Clark, PhD, is also a great book for parents. Stories by other parents of gay children have also been compiled into a book called “My Child is Gay” by Bryce McDougall. This book instantly helps parents realize their story is not as unique as they may feel.
Once you do realize or are told your child is gay and you check out any resources out there to answer questions they may not be able to, you ultimately still have the same child in front of you that you have always loved. They are literally the same person, only more of who they truly are and more honest about what they want out of life. Also understand that the fact that they are homosexual is not about you. They have trusted you enough to come out or even if you have discovered it on your own, they will always need and want your love and support as they seek the same happiness in this life that each heterosexual craves and desires.
What to Do With Your Spare Time Once You Reach Millionaire Status?
Written by Longe Magazine Staff Writer
Once the day finally rolls around where you realize you can now claim the right to be referred to as a “millionaire”, it can be surreal. For most people, this dream never becomes a reality or even remotely attainable. There are a growing number of people out there who have put in the time and energy needed to achieve this once rare and coveted title. They have also saved and invested suavely enough to see it happen while they are young enough to enjoy it. This is a fast growing population even during these tough economic times. They made their money smartly and typically by doing something they loved. Now that they are set money wise, they can find themselves wondering what to do now.
In stark contrast to the old money club which still holds power and influence throughout the world, the new millionaire literally holds steadfastly onto his or her middle class roots and values. You may picture a new millionaire sailing off in a 50 foot yacht toward the island sunset the day after he sees the bank statement confirming his initiation into the millionaires club. However, this is turning out to be a misleading and incomplete stereotypical visual. Most millionaires don’t just sit back and count their money as the years roll by, they need something to do.
While almost anyone who reaches millionaire status does so through hard work and intellect, they also have statistically done being happy. They have not spent their years slaving away in a suit and tie day after day hating the office. If you are a new millionaire, chances are you have been doing a job you love to show up for. Most new millionaires have a zest for their career choice and excel at it by loving it. This naturally means for most new millionaires they are not really looking to throw in the towel once they reach a certain dollar mark. They truly want to stay involved in the line of work which made them millionaires. They just may take the time to enjoy the perks more than they would have while working their way up. Look at the worlds billionaires for example. Even the richest of the rich still go to work each day in one way or another, staying involved in the day to day activities of their companies. Therefore, staying involved in the industry that made you rich will typically keep you rich and busy.
Regardless of how much the new millionaire stays involved in the work that made them rich, they do have to come to terms with the freedom and leisure time this new found financial freedom brings. For some, this can be the first time in their work life where they can literally do what they want. Their families may also be able to enjoy this way of life for the first time. Some of these leisure activities are exactly what you would expect of the millionaire sect. For some, enjoying service at high end restaurants and boutiques can be liberating and eye opening. Going to exclusive theater events and art shows will let you mingle with others in your financial bracket. Luxury resorts are catering to the new millionaire. They can be found in virtually every corner of the country. At these resorts, the wealthy can enjoy extensive spa services for men and women. Specialty services like experimental mud baths and hot stone treatments are just a few of the extra ways millionaires can indulge themselves at these exclusive resorts.
Travel has always been a treasured leisure activity of millionaires. New millionaires are no exception. The desire to see countries and exotic lands you could never afford to travel to before will always be a tempting way to spend money.
New millionaires still like to spend their money on objects just as much as luxury experiences. Such objects are also investments. The new millionaire will undoubtedly want to buy a summer home or second property on the opposite coast. The new millionaire will always want to buy the car of their dreams also. Spending new money on fail safe items like jewelry is also still a favorite indulgence.
Even when you reach new millionaire status and have more free time, there are still responsibilities one must pay attention to. In these hard economic times, it is not unusual to find millionaires spending their time giving back in one way or another. Despite status, using your spare time to volunteer and make a positive difference in your community is perhaps the most beneficial way to spend your new leisure time.
Regardless of how you make your millions and how much you stay involved with the job that made you rich, you are sure to want to indulge a little. Spend your leisure time doing all of the things you felt you could never do before, or would’ve felt guilty about doing. Remember, part of wanting to reach millionaire status was the desire to enjoy life in your own way.
We all work with people who are less than sunshine during the day. Perhaps we ourselves are the ones spreading the crankiness.
Being cranky, however, does affect job performance, morale and even a promotion. Being able to improve morale and productivity as well as cheer someone up will not only make you look good in management’s eyes, but your own.
Here are some steps to deal with cranky co-workers:
Give them the space they need to read their emails, get coffee and listen to voice mails before jumping into a conversation with them. Ask when it would be convenient to discuss something with them that is work related.
I once worked with a woman who needed a good 15 to 20 minutes to take care of things. Unless something was pressing, I knew to keep my distance.
Ask, in a nice tone, if they are okay and if you can do anything to help. If appropriate, ask your manager if you can help with any workloads, if it is in your range.
Sometimes co-workers are swamped and feel as though they have to do everything. Offer your help, If they don't take it, at least you made an effort.
Don’t be part of the problem by being cranky back. Don’t take anything personally. What others do is a reflection on their beliefs and mentality and has nothing to do with you. Seriously, we tend to take things personally, when in reality, most people behave in a manner of their own making and it has nothing to do with us. I suggest reading a book called The Four Agreements.
Many times we let other people's moods affect our own, thinking we are being sympathetic or guilty for feeling good. Do not allow it. Continue to be pleasant to others and put in a good day's work. Eventually this person's disposition will show. They will not look so good when held up to the light, but you will.
Set boundaries about what are your duties and what are his so there can be no blame games.
If your coworker does give you some work to do, ask them to explain how they want it done so there isn't any confusion and you cannot be blames for messing things up later on. Set clear boundaries as to what is acceptable behavior and what is not. I f a coworker is insulting or gossiping, you have to develop a strong enough constitution to stand up to him or her. If their person gossiping about you or insulting you is your boss or manager, ask if there is something in your job performance that needs improving. And don't care what they think of you personally. A mature, professional person can look beyond personal traits and personality to a person's work ethic and professionalism.
Take advantage of an employee assistance plan if coworkers seem to be getting to you. If you feel uncomfortable on the plan, than seek outside counseling and support.
Most cranky co-workers are unhappy because the job they are in, is not their dream job. Ask your cranky coworker what their dreams are and if they can take steps toward it. Many people are now experiencing financial problems. It is common wisdom to not ask about salaries and wages, however, you can make life better for yourself by taking steps to get out of debt, invest wisely for a return on investment and to save money in order to pursue a life of your dreams.
Dont' let them get to you. Your highest duty is to yourself, to find a job that you enjoy that fills a need in the community, to create wealth, to establish good working relations and to live a balanced life. Don't let anybody get in the way of that.
Just Because You Have A Criminal Record Does Not Mean You Are Destined To A Lifetime Of Dead End Jobs
Written by Longe Magazine
Just Because You Have A Criminal Record Does Not Mean You Are Destined To A Lifetime Of Dead End Jobs
Having a criminal record of any kind can be devastating on so many aspects of your life. You may find during your incarceration or even during your time performing community service that your friends and family may no longer be on your side. Even if they are, the shame and guilt associated with this time in your life can leave real scars on your psyche. You may find it very difficult to move forward. It is common to also feel as if the entire world is still making you pay for a crime you have already paid for in the eyes of the law. It is also common to let these emotions prey on you to a point where you too believe you are unworthy of a second chance.
Once you have finally accepted that you have indeed paid back your debt to society, you have to believe you are worth the investment and can have a successful future before anyone else will be willing to take a chance on you. Getting to this important step of really seeing yourself as a success after a conviction, is vital to ever achieving any of the dreams you may have had before you were convicted of a crime. While you may now want to go out there and jump into the workforce, your past will inevitably follow you.
Seeking traditional employment in the private sector can be challenging even when you really do deserve the chance. Some states will actually limit any certifications or promotions you can actually achieve based on your criminal record. You may find that every time a potential employer does a background check, they drop you off the short list regardless of how much you may now deserve the job. This frustration and lack of genuine opportunity can be so debilitating on ones self esteem, it makes it easier to see why so many ex-convicts go back to criminal life after freedom.
One unique and intelligent way to beat the odds of re-incarceration is to seriously consider being your own boss. This is harder than it sounds, yet makes perfect sense. You can take a break from chasing dead end opportunities or begging potential bosses to give you a chance. Use this time to investigate your start up business opportunities. Your probation officer and certain non-profit organizations can put you in touch with members of the community willing to help you fine tune a stellar business plan. They can also help you dress the part of a soon to be small business owner. Looking professional and having a comprehensive business model in hand can open so many prospective doors. Unfortunately, it does take more than these two components to get a start up business off the ground and any cash in your pockets. You may find bumps in the road also if you apply for a small business loan at certain banks. Some, despite any extenuating circumstances, will not even consider giving a small business loan to anyone with a criminal record. Others will give you a chance if you have other aspects of your life in order. They may take your community standing and length of residency in the area into consideration. They may also take into account if you own a home and if you have never been in any trouble legally since your conviction. Even if you get a loan, getting insurance on your business with a criminal record can be another obstacle to making your dreams a reality.
However, even with all of these obstacles in your way, you can still make owning a start up business possible despite your past. Do your best to re-establish any contact with respectable members of the community and your own family. They may be your best hope of start up funding if the banks won’t help. You can turn to alternative start up resources such as government grants and personal loans. Leasing rather than buying any equipment or retail space is also an option if you can not secure buying these items from the start. Do your best to pool any resources together to take on the competition and win over customers based on the quality of the service you can give. If your start up business plan and execution of that plan are really well done and you can provide a service to the community unlike anyone else around, you will succeed despite any past indiscretions.
It can be difficult for others to see beyond your criminal record. You may have to work ten times harder than the average small business owner to get established and get the trust of others in the community. But, if you truly want to move beyond your past and prove your life can still be seen as a success, you will do the extra work and begin to repair your reputation. Don’t let one chapter of your life ever tell the full story and block you from your full potential.
What is Good about Shopping on Shop.com
Shop.com is not your ordinary internet retail site. It gives you all of the convenience of shopping online from home plus so much more. For those who are extremely busy or live in remote areas, shopping online brings the world to their doorstep. It has opened up shopping possibilities for those who can’t get out for a variety of reasons.
Most every store has a website you can scroll through and order just about anything. Shop.com takes this concept a little further. It has the information and resources form over 2000 stores all in one place. You no longer have to login in and out and back in again from one store to the next trying to compare the price of the boots you want. You can locate items by store names, brand name, or style. Just about every popular brand name you can think of along with the stores that carry those items are lined up in one location. The days of racing up and down the mall corridors trying to locate the best sale price for the particular camera or purse you want are over.
Some of the items you can easily look over and buy on Shop.com include clothes for everyone, shoes for all seasons, jewelry including name brand watches, electronics such as computers and televisions, home décor and kitchen items, books, lawn and garden items, baby furniture and necessities, beauty and style items, gift sets and even specialty foods and drinks. You can rely on one site to help you locate gourmet chocolates for an anniversary and a new set of sheets and dishes. You can buy the latest bestsellers and do school shopping for the kids all in one afternoon. There are also pre-packaged gift sets such as spa essentials that are difficult to locate when it is not the holiday rush time of year.
While the sheer amount of items and categories that you can browse through on Shop.com may seem impressive, what makes this site unique is the other capabilities on Shop.com. They have a price alert option. When you find an item you are in the market for but it is still listed at a price out of your budget range, you can click on the price alert button. You item the price you are willing to splurge for the item and your email. When the price eventually drops down to what you are willing to pay for a specific item, you will be notified.
Shop.com also has a clearance section just like your favorite department stores. You can browse through virtual clearance racks to buy out of season or overstocked items. Most of the stores on Shop.com also have online deals and coupons available for you to use whether you are a long-time loyal shopper or completely new to the site. You can sign up for online alerts about your favorite name brands or stores too. Some stores actually enter you to win free merchandise if you take the time to review their items on Shop.com.
There is also a Buying Guide section on Shop.com that is very unique to internet shopping sites. The guide is a “how to” resource for just about everything you may ever need to purchase. You can read articles and tips on what options you may want for an item so you can make an informed decision. It gives you an overview of important tips and even a glossary section which explains common terms related to the item. This educational section to help shoppers make the best decision about buying everything from knives to makeup is one aspect of Shop.com that helps the consumer feel it is a place they can trust to assist them with difficult purchases.
Shop.com can also be personalized. You can create your own list. This “My List” section is like your own page where you can list and categorize items you want. You can also comment on items you have. You can share this list with select visitors, giving them special insight to what you may have your heart set on for a gift. The Shopping Vine is also a fun spot to check out on Shop.com. Here you can read shopping trends and get all of the latest news on just about everything related to shopping online.
Shop.com is not only for people who wish to purchase personal items from home. Small businesses can use Shop.com to order everything from office furniture, computer equipment and office supplies.
With the amount of items, the variety, the extra helpful resources and free shipping offered by some of the stores, Shop.com brings more than just the retail stores into your home. You can make knowledgeable and cost efficient decisions concerning just about everything you may ever need to buy.
Last Updated on Sunday, 12 February 2012 16:34
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